When You Wish You Lose
Tuesday, May 19th, 2009
I guess there is no polite way to say it. “I wish,” is victim language.
How many times have you heard or said it yourself? I wish. I wish I could have a new car. I wish I could take a vacation. I wish I didn’t have to work here. I wish I wasn’t fat – in my case I wish I wasn’t so skinny. The lists are endless.
The words “I wish” are a negative imprint on your subconscious. Now when I say “I wish,” I’m not referring to blowing out the candles on my birthday cake. I’m referring to the words in terms of, “I wish, but I know it will never happen for me.” And there’s the rub. And that’s why it is dangerous.
The first word in any motivational speaker or high achiever’s lexicon is “action.” If you want something or truly have a desire to achieve something, make it a goal, develop a plan, go after it, and make it happen. Again the key word is “action.”
It is a lie to believe that any reasonable desire is out of your reach. It is a lie to think that you do not have within you the ability to achieve what you want or need. Take the steps. High achievers work from lists. There are several reasons for this habit. First, it helps them organize their day, helps them prioritize tasks in order of importance. They are more productive. But the most important benefit is they see their progress and accomplishments throughout their day. Positive reinforcement nourishes and builds their strength exponentially.
When you hear yourself say the words “I wish,” stop and ask the question. “Do I want this?” If so, change your mental and verbal language to, “I will have this,” or claim it as yours and say and think, “I have it.” Then take the action needed to get whatever it is you want or need in your life. Make a deadline. Make your list of the steps. And make it happen. All things are possible for those who believe and are willing to do the work.
Bet you “wish” you would have started this process sooner!
Live well.
Stephen
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